Monday, 29 October 2018


As human beings, we are relational beings. Some attitudes are very important in a relationship. Here I will mention only one of the many them: Trust.

We are living in a formation community in which we have students who are preparing themselves to become Missionaries of Africa and the formators who are trying their best to prepare these students.
In this big community, we are relational at different levels; relation of: students among themselves; formators among themselves, then relationship between the students and the formators and vice-versa. Is there trust at these different levels of relationship? I am not sure that I will answer this question. Nevertheless, I might answer other questions, which are not asked, and through them, it is possible that the reader will find his answer to the question.

Trust as a desire

Though I did not answer the previous question, what I am sure is that my deepest desire is that trust may reign among us at all levels. How I wish everybody would nourish the same desire in our community! A desire is like a dream: it can come true… Let us all desire to trust one another and work to the actuation of that desire.

Trust as a choice

To desire to trust is not enough for it to turn into reality. A wish alone does not turn something into reality. Beside the desire, we need to choose. In our life, we can choose to trust, we can also choose not to trust. At times, we trust some people and not others… Why? Each one knows why. At times, we choose to trust some people in some situations rather than in others…

Trust as a decision

After we have chosen to trust, we need to decide to trust so that we may work toward the implementation of trust.

Whom to trust?

We need to trust the people whom we are in relation with. Nevertheless, the first person we are in relation with is our own self. Each one should trust himself. Unfortunately, some people do not trust their own self.  This can lead to bad performance in academic and professional life. Nevertheless, when someone begins to trust himself, he can experience wonders about his own life.
After that trust of oneself, then we should move to the trust of others. However, here it is only someone who trusts himself that can trust others. Those who do not trust themselves will find it difficult to trust others.

 The challenge of trust

Trust can be challenged by the attitude of some members of the community, especially when there is lack of honesty and sincerity. The lack of these two realities can make someone to stop trusting some people, or at times a category of people, or even the whole group, the whole community…
In the context of a formation house, can formators still trust students after some unpleasant behaviors of the latter? Can students still trust formators while they know that these people have got as part of their responsibility to evaluate them, to write their reports and decide on their continuation or discontinuation? Can students still nourish the trust among themselves while they are aware of some bad behaviors of some of them? Can formators promote trust among themselves?

My credo about trust

I believe that trust is possible among human being whatever their experience might have been in their life of relationship.
I believe that human beings are perfectible.
I believe that a human being is beyond what he does. Thus, I will not confine anybody in his past, in his failures, in his weaknesses.
I believe that when I trust someone, I allow him to develop his potentialities and to become more human. I contribute to his personal growth.
From what precedes, I desire to trust; I choose to trust and I decide to trust.

Cekoroba Arsène KAPYA

Monday, 15 October 2018


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Considering the universality of many aspects of human life, there are aspects which are necessary and in totality. These aspects have a wide horizon and spectrum which determine human fair-life. Every human being is in his/her potentiality; but how many do they come close to the actuality in a fulfilled manner? Knowing oneself, to live holiness, to be oneself, accepting the others, listening and silence, and forgiveness are really the basis of having a peaceful and a just global community both to the rational beings and the other beings in the universe.

Image result for rational beingMany scholars, especially psychologists, have tried to elucidate in depth about a human life. The psyche being the centrality of a human, it needs to be worked upon. Comprising cognition, E-motions and feelings, it really bears a high percentage of the whole human being’s life. Nevertheless, awareness is very necessary in order to maintain all this complexity of this rational being. One has to recognize him/herself first in depth and accept the way he/she is. Being in a ‘global community’, made by the technological advancements, in order to have a heaven-like earth, the community life must be perfected. The communion to be successfully sealed and made concrete by recognition. Each and every member must know him/herself and recognize his/her presence not as just an accidental existence but with a purpose.

After knowing one-self, growth is vital. Striving to live in wholeness is a very appropriate option to adopt in one’s life. ‘wholeness’, in the sense of being a living being who is in control of his/her inner-self and connect with the rest of the universe in the rightful way. Striving for wholeness is an aspect of being oneself. Believing that we are having one Creator who makes everything to be in peace rightfully, he is enabling us to have that opportunity each and every day.

Image result for listening and silenceHas one ever noted the similarities of these two words; Listen and Silent.  Containing the same alphabetical letters, one can reconstruct the word listen to get silent and vice versa. They are mysterious words which are very fundamental in human life. The silence should be an act of reflection. listening is a very important factor as it enables one to be deeply into contact with inner self and others too. As Swahili quotation says ‘kinywa cha mzee kinanuka ila kinanena ukweli’ – The old man’s mouth has a bad breath but speaks the Truth. And, ‘mvi ya kwanza huota sikioni’ – The first grey hair is in the ear. These two quotes give a summary of the two words and their importance. The reflective silence is necessary and it is only broken when there is need; to say the Truth. Truth sets people free. Nevertheless, however much most people believe in that, sincerely, it is bitter in most of the time; but its advantages are far away surpassing its bitter implications in the society. The Listening part is attributed to be of equal prominence as concurrently.
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